Have you thought about your husband this Christmas?
Of course, the most important thing at Christmastime,is our Lord and the miracle and magic of his coming to earth to be God with us Emmanuel.
But for you married ladies I the next most important relationship you should be focused on is your husband.
Jesus said, “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Matthew 19:4-6 NIV)
God has joined you together. Shouldn’t you try to stay that way?
Date Nights and luxurious presents are fun and exciting, but a marriage thrives on unity of spirit, mind, heart, and body. Even in the leanest of years, you can afford these things, if you give your marriage the priority, attention, and time it deserves.
Over the years, my husband and I have done a few things to make a special Christmas moment for just the two of us. Here are some ideas you can try.
Christmas Traditions and Dates for Couples
Take advantage of some free babysitting if you can! Swap with a friend, call in the grandparents or drop the kids’ off at a Parents’ Night event at your local church and slip out just the two of you to knock a few items off your holiday shopping list.
While you’re out, stop for a coffee or cookie and just be still and together for a moment.
Online Shopping Date
With the convenience of Amazon Prime and the availability of handmade and fair trade items online, it can be simpler to get your Christmas shopping done from home! Tuck the kids in or plop them in front of a movie. Grab a festive, warm beverage and cuddle together as you select the perfect items to make those little eyes twinkle on December 25!
Have you heard the study that says looking at pictures of exotic locations is just as good for the brain as an actual vacation? Imagination vacations are one of my favorite ways to escape reality.
As it turns out, Imagination Shopping can be just as thrilling. If your budget is tight this year, or you’re trying to escape a consumerist lifestyle, and you’ve decided to forego actually purchasing gifts for each other, you could enjoy a fabulous date night at home shopping online together!
Take turns “driving” the laptop and selecting the perfect gift for your spouse… no budget! Let’s see… I’d get you a fabulous watch, some luxury chocolates, and a trip to Bermuda….
Auld Lang Syne
Sitting by the glow of a fire or just the Christmas Tree lights, reminisce over the past year and Christmases gone by. Tell of your childhood holiday traditions; remember your first Christmas together. Dream of the years ahead. These are the moments that build a family, that make a life. Recall them. Tell the stories. Lock them away in your memories together.
trying to stay awake because we’re exhausted
I get it. Sometimes, the activity of this time of year is draining! And all you can muster energy for is a good Netflix series and a cuddle on the couch. Find a series you both enjoy–we’ve been loving The Crown this month–and make a date of it.
Or snuggle under your coziest blanket with some Sophisticated Hot Chocolate and check out a more holiday-themed feature! It’s a Wonderful Life, White Christmas, Miracle on 34th Street… or a newer film like The Spirit of Christmas (recommended by a friend and Martha Society member) could be just the respite you need together.
Give a gift…without spending a dime
There are a lot of ways you can make a special gift for your spouse without spending a dime.
Prepare for a whole year of togetherness by planning 12 Months of Dates.
Look up some of the adorable printable date plans at The Dating Divas.
Swap massages. (Melt has a fantastic massage for couples course. Actual relaxation massage techniques, nothing awkward, totally PG. I thought they had a free sample series, but currently I’m only finding a paid-for option. If you are spending, it would be a great gift!)
Make a box full of notes of things you love about him.
Not free, but cheap: If you’re a selfie loving couple, print up a Chatbook of your greatest moments together! (Get on it though, Dec. 18th is the cutoff date for Christmas arrival!)
It’s easy to get caught up in meeting the demands of others this time of year. You’re hustling to be where someone wants you to be. You’re looking to find something that someone wants or something they don’t want but that might possibly make them smile. You’re trying to juggle all the balls and spin all the plates.
Just don’t forget the guy who shares this life with you.
Some special together time is good for both of you.
God gave us the gift of marriage for many reasons, and one of them is that you’ll have a calm space in a storm. Be a safe harbor for one another.
Happy Hubby-Days! And Happy Wifey-days too!
Do you and your husband share any special traditions at Christmas time? I’d love to hear about it! Comment below, email me at Christina@gathering-joy.com or Join the Conversation in our Private Facebook Group!
Snowflakes and twinkle lights,